Calling in to question

 I am calling into question the reputation, based on behaviour, of the families that my sons married into.

Without the right information, I would also call into question my own families' banal replies, a year ago, that my sons are healthy, wealthy, and wise and working for their houses, vehicles, and children... and, maybe, wives... maybe not. I'm not sure.

For the last few days I have been disseminating information, on my blog, to get the correct responses. 

I have also been studying the psychological problems that are, today, considered pervasive in our society. One book I am, currently, reading is written by a very young man but I am finding the information immensely helpful. When I was about 26 years old I was going to become a psychologist. I was working at a café, bored beyond bored with the endless pouring of coffee. So, I looked into the courses I would need to take at the local university, not the university across the pond where I actually took courses for interior design 13 years later. 

The reason I had, at that time, believed that I would make a very good psychologist was... everywhere I went, people would tell me their life stories. It was like a light bulb went on and I thought, maybe it is ethical to receive a wage if I help someone. 

What happened next was... a virus... I was working in a public place and I got a terrible virus. Only once, since then, have I had a virus that bad. It felt like I had vertigo and the doctor said that I had developed an infection in my main control center at the back of the brain stem. Woah, I had to take a few days off of work, for the first time in my life. I had never missed a day of work, until then. It took a few days and I was back at the same boring job and I didn't sign up for those psychology courses because those few days of not receiving income blew my budget right out of the water and I realized I would have to save some money if I wanted to be able to afford higher education.

So, I went back to work... pouring more coffee.

Here I am, 36 years later, and I am really learning about brain energy and what happens when your brain is attacked by a virus... I hope to heavens that is the only reason you ever suffer a brain injurious problem.

I have written in a journal, of mine, something I said to my son when he was very young... "You need to think right." He replied, "Well, how do you know who has right thinking?" 

At the time, I thought he had the question half right... his question of who has right thinking was correctly valid but it should have been prefaced with... 'how do you know what is right thinking?'

So, I would love to prove that wrong motives can be sifted through to call into question behaviour that is so obviously wrong that anybody would call them on the carpet. Colloquially, to call someone on the carpet means to criticize someone for doing something wrong. People don't use this old idiom much but I like it... maybe because I sold a lot of carpets.

It's going to take more than one day for me to detail experiences that I would say are 'good ways' to respond versus 'bad ways' to respond. Social graces is a topic that should be taught everywhere because the world, in general, has forgotten what social graces is, as a class, not brash response.

I'm going to start with something simple...

Diet

If you want to have a functioning brain, you must eat right. I would tell my sons, and anyone who wants to think right... you must eat right. 

I will give you a small example from my dear departed father. When his dear wife was put into a nursing home, he really suffered. My dad was so lonely, he didn't bother cooking himself anything. He went into a real slump, emotionally, and he talked out this event each time I visited him. That was healthy. 

He did hire someone to cook one food item and apportion them into containers and fill his freezer so he had this 'favourite food,' of his, to eat every day. That was the one right thing my dad actually did for his diet but, it wasn't quite enough to make his thinking clear and concise. One day, I visited him before he had a good meal and stayed long enough to watch him eat the entire thing... and I thought, oh, he does like good food... he just doesn't have anyone to make him food. So, myself, and some sisters, starting bringing homemade food and putting into his fridge/ freezer. My youngest brother visited one time, from out west, and said he'd tried all the food I had brought and he said it was all good. So, I thought, this is a good thing.

Now, for the brain to work correctly, good food is a must and, forsuredly, a staple. If my sons needed homemade food, I could certainly do that and make sure there was food for them every day, in the freezer, so they can lead a healthy life...

precisely as I took care of them when they were still living "at home." I just need to be contacted so I am aware of their situations. That is normal behaviour... to contact when you need help... or, as I do, contact to offer help and ask if there is a need. This is normal and helpful and, many times, needful.

And, I know, for sure, that each of the eight children in my family, has enough children to take care of their parents, my old siblings, so I am only volunteering to help my own children because that is fitting and responsible and loving. 

I am waiting for them to contact me.

Going forward, I will address the 'healthy brain, healthy body, healthy actions' processes of life using some very current information to help everyone 'think straight.'