Living in Reality

I put a new page on Pinterest on Friday... The Orchard Walk El Dueck

It's my old book, published at the end of 2012 but I put 2013 as the publication year as the printer was unsure of their ability to 'get it out by Christmas.'

It was definitely me, who put pictures of my work on Pinterest but, what I'm confused about is this... is Pinterest, Canada located in Ontario? Secondly, I had a lot of problems with Pinterest that night. I pinned 19 pictures and then another 20 or more but the system switched my pins to a 'painting, decorating' board and I couldn't get out of that board so I suppose they have glitches too.

So, I made the long journey to Winnipeg yesterday and I dropped off one of my novels. 

My goal was to see my sons and grandsons but nobody was home. By August, I start getting winter ready. I worry about the cold. I try on capes with hoods. I think about my 'work supplies' and make sure I have enough to get through six long months of winter projects. Since moving so far away from Winnipeg, I make a habit of dropping off blankets and pillows to ward off the winter chill. I tried mailing one and I think it was only successful once and then packages came back, unopened, with RTS (return to sender) on them so I knew that wasn't a good way of trying to get something to my children.

I heard a man suggest that my blog was not helpful for psychology and I would, definitely, differ in my opinion of that. 

Most people don't realize that psychology is just... problem solving... mostly relational issues and, for many, behavioural issues. 

Many years ago I spent way too much time with a particular woman who talked and talked and talked about her family and I started feeling like I was her psychologist... because I was doing all the listening. Then one day she started telling people she had written my novel and that's when I knew I would really recommend she go see a psychologist who would, hopefully, help her with her delusion.

If anyone thinks that writing a historical fiction novel is easy or fast... it is a long researched project that, for me, took over three years to complete. When writing anything historical you check and cross- check and re- check information to see which facts match or line up enough to be considered factual. When my dearly deceased read my novel, he corrected me on a fact that he was familiar with, personally, because of his knowledge of the job. So, my novel maintains a living presence within my day to day to work. 

I make blankets, a very creative demonstration of work mentioned within my novel.

So, let's live in the world of reality, at least to acknowledging your own work.   

 

Entitled Heritage?

 The brothers I was mentioning yesterday and my brothers would likely differ in their definition of the word 'heritage,' and this is why.

The brothers I mentioned yesterday had a heritage of violence. This definition of 'inherited circumstances, a heritage of violence' I found in 3 of one of my dictionaries. The father beat the living hell out of his wife and then his children. So, a person could say that they had negative balance characters, as they grew up, and as they grew to adulthood, and then, as they entered the workforce and were required to deal with other people and get along with others.

So, imagine a scale. You can't pick your heritage, as in parents. That is never a choice. You are born into the family as the natural world produces. 

I was born into Guenter family. My father and mother did not beat us and my father never beat his wife, therefore, things were a little easier for us, growing up. We didn't have to fear the nights, the days, the evenings, the end of work days, nor the weekends. Our greatest fear was never getting a day off from working. 

The bad heritage family was Dueck. I actually only experienced the mother behave badly once in over 25 years. 

So, her son explained what life was like, for him, every day, as he fought the demons of violence. He said there was a good spirit on one shoulder and a bad spirit on the other shoulder and every day they would fight to see who would win. He said it was very exhausting. 

Now, let's imagine that this son, or any son or daughter, wants to overcome bad family repute. 

What would be required?

First, you have to be able to prove that you're not like the old man. In Biblical terms, the old man is the unregenerated or unreformed person. The world is full of these types of people. People who are the problem. 

These people of lesser heritage must desire to be the solution and then character build themselves into the best of society. This is a very difficult task but it is necessary.

The problem with people who refuse to be the authentic home church is that it is too easy to fake being good when in a public place. We must treat people with love, kindness, patient self- control (forbearance), peacefulness, and goodness in our homes first. Putting on a suit and sitting in the back row of Sunday morning church and tithing unto the Mosaic law can be a very old and harsh example of church gone bad if that individual is a violent ruler in the home. I am not sure if Peter thought he could subvert the spirit of the law by fulfilling a church law legality. If he thought that would bring him the respect of the church laity, he surely did miss the whole core of the gospel message.

Our heritage was more civilized. Oh, we were required to work. We were loved. We were driven to church to learn and sing in a very refined choir status metronome timing. We inherited a builder mentality. For no other foundation can anyone lay... was the solid rock on which we stood.

I raised my children in this manner and I certainly hope and pray they are safe and secure within the heritage that I was raised. We always had enough to eat. We always had enough of everything to learn and access to vehicles before we had money of our own to buy them. We were proud of  our accomplishments, in a humble way, because we were always encouraged to progress.

I thank God for my heritage and I hope my children feel the same. 

So, if you want to be entitled to your heritage, you must give your children a just claim or right to it. If you train up a child in the way he should go, then they are entitled to the teaching, and learning, of the precepts that you laid forth as you raised them. These precepts become our heritage as we live by them.

To entitle something, a book, is to give it a name. Did you know you can't, legally, give a book, that you write, a name that is already published? You have to do all that research before you can, legally, publish a book. Only then, are you entitled to the title.

Christian Cult?

 I fear my 1981 husbands' brothers are into cult behaviour. 

If I were to define a Christian in laymans' terms, I would say... a Christian is a Christ follower... most people know who Jesus Christ is and people who are Christians can be defined with qualities from Galatians, as my previous blog stated. Love, joy, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self- control. Against such things there is no law.

This is what I would do if any of my 'family' members asked me to help them. First, I would ask for their childrens' phone numbers to call them and tell them that their parent has a problem they need to attend to. Of course, I would imagine that family members born in the 50's and 60's are going to be the first to fall to illness but, should I be wrong about that...

I would definitely want to know if my children, currently in their 30's and 40's, are in good enough health to care for, themselves, their children, and then... their parents.

You know that saying... charity starts at home? If charity means giving help, money, food, and/ or time to your people who are poor, sick or in need, then I can say with clear conscience and truthfulness that I lived my life this way, with my 'family' after I was married.

As an aside, I also lived this way when my folks were alive and I was living under their guidance... from birth to age 17. I followed their rules, attended church on Sunday... I prefer Saturday now... went to choir practise, and youth group. We worked from Monday to Saturday. I thought the Saturday working hard thing was way out of line when we had already worked five days in a row.

Volunteering... I am done volunteering until my own poverty has been quelled. We used to sing in nursing homes on Sunday afternoons. I volunteered, in churches and schools, for over 25 years after 1981. 

At this point, I will only attend to my children and grandchildren. This is the season of my life for that. To everything there is a season, yes?

Now, what is a Christian cult? There is no such thing. There are Christians. There are cults.

 Well, firstly, I think people who group together and follow some odd and strange behaviour can be considered a cult. Here are some examples of this type of behaviour.

"You are going to wear this blindfold so you can see what it is like to be blind." 

"You will type with your hands tied together."

"Your child will be beaten black and blue if you do not do as I say."

"Strange people will be put in charge of you and your foundation of one father, one mother foundation will be rocked and threatened."

"You will not be allowed to call anyone you used to know (especially if the people have been locked away for years, as my children have been)."

"You will now get your glasses if you do not obey." (This is so evil, to take away a persons' glasses so he can't see.)

"You will be police forced to go to a mental institution to experience what those people go through every day." (This insanity has been a violation I am going to write about in the future.) I guarantee you, this has happened.

Whoever does things like this is not sane. No child should be frightened with the crazy behaviour of such evil people. No adult should be frightened with such insanity, of violating our human rights. 

You can't pay for a 'restraining order' against someone who has never harmed you. 

You are using the law to violate the law. 

Do you even know how destructive that is? If you take out a restraining order or a protection order (whatever that is), just to give a good person a bad reputation, you are tearing down the actual fabric of our society and making day to day living very dangerous for everyone. Do you know what evil people do with information like that? They use it to extort money from victims. They use this information to level their own assault against good people because you lie about good people and cover the evil deeds of bad people. This is, literally, brainwashing.

This is the most commonly used statement of a cult leader... 

"Now, you are going to say..." (The people who are being manipulated are told what to say, when they can leave their house, when they will not attend kids' club, youth group, public meetings where others can verify the well- being of a family.)

Vehicles are taken away. Wages disappear. The ability to run their own households is re- directed to a 'cult' person.

My novel has my name El Dueck on it. 

Other than myself, I don't know any Dueck I would trust. My Sunday school teacher, who passed away... maybe. My grandson, maybe, if I could see him. My son, maybe, if I could see him. My other grandson, maybe, if I could see him. 

I would like an investigation into a group that calls themselves 'The Orchard.' I wonder if that is a very nefarious group. If anybody has a list of the people who are in that group, please contact me, Elfrieda. 

Window Grace

 Have you ever noticed that a beautiful window can really make a house look nice?

My sisters' husband used to buy from Kolbe. I don't know how he got in touch with them but I do remember one think my sister once said about the very old couple they once had dinner with.

The couple were both Christians and the woman told my sister that she had never needed to volunteer in church for all the myriad hosting things that were often put on for the reason of recruiting members.

The wise woman had said that her Christian service was to be beside her husband and work together to further the Lord's work within their company.

I have always remembered that from 20 years ago. It's possible that the elderly couple have already retired but the window website is still online. 

I know their Christian principles would never allowed any employee to be charged for 'breakage.' These are the types of companies you really admire. They probably just insure so life is smooth and practical and envelops the fruit of the spirit...

love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self- control. For, against such things there is no law.

I always hope my sons... Scott, Tyler, and Jordan are so blessed as to be employed by such equitable Christians for we truly do desire to live as the Lord intended.

Worst

 So, I have had the worst experiences here, where I currently live. 

I didn't think a place could be cursed but I have to wonder!

A man named Jim, whom I paid almost all my pension money to for living in a Bowman rental, once told me that he believed there are territorial powers over areas. I wish I had been able to find out where he got his information from.

My worst birthday was probably October 12, 2024. I thought it would be a really good day because, if you look at the double holiday, of that year, you will find it was really supposed to be a huge blessing day and, possibly, year. Unfortunately, I had the worst visitor that day. Well, he didn't visit me, he was actually visiting his father. He brought dog treats. I was so insulted that he would visit here, on that day, I was unsure how a nurse, a supposed health care professional, would consider this an ethical thing to do.

So, I had made dinner that day, for my husband and myself, and I felt obligated to offer my husbands' son food... it's a Christian thing we Christians do.

I still remember how he bashed the president and laughed and laughed. I thought, are you doing this as a very bad joke or are you serious about what you are saying?

So, we don't celebrate birthdays... as you can tell, that is a  good thing if people are going to have such bad experiences.

I am still waiting to hear from Jordan, Scott, and Tyler to see how their lives are going in Winnipeg.

Test of Truth

 So, I sent a few messages to see if the truth of something can be proven.

Here's one test that is easily verified...

Do my children and grandchildren look as well taken care of as yours?

Do the houses my children and grandchildren live in seem equivalent to what most are living in?

Are the vehicles my children drive or need to be driven in as road- worthy as most everyone else in the family? If their health has made it impossible for them to drive, are the drivers reliable people who would always care for the infirm?

Are my children healthy and robust?

Are my children able to get help with one phone call or do they have to make several phone calls before anyone pays attention?

Is there a good stock of healthy food in my childrens' houses so they can readily access it?

Have they been protected like the other 100 people on one side of my family?

These are easy tests to verify the honest living of any family. The integrity of people will shew forth in the verifiable answers to these questions. 

Why Watson?

 Dear Watson,

You have been on my mind since December 26- 27, 2024, when I was welcomed into your home, in Meadows West, as if ten years hadn't passed since our 25 year relationship.

Although it was a very short visit and, as I had made clear to you, when I asked for a 'bed' for that night... that, I was trying to contact my sons Scott, Tyler, and Jordan. 

I am using your maiden name because I know how you value your privacy as I value mine greatly. I am just fine with people knowing that I wrote The Orchard Walk- El Dueck. After all, how would I sell any copies of my novel otherwise?

Wasn't your daughter 9 years old when we first connected and went to a Christian Women's Club evening in Kildonan Park? Is she 45 now? My, how time has passed.

I think I mentioned that I now live where you grew up. I haven't found anyone, from this town, who knew your family but, if I do, I will ask them to show me where you lived, on the farm, or was it just in the country? It is always interesting to see where people grow up, isn't it? If the people who pointed out a house of the old pastor at Maranatha are correct, that is a tiny little house that also produced a local politician. I also found out that those two brothers attended a church, here, where I attended for one year-ish.

I am reaching out, to you, to ask if you have visited my sons and checked on their well- being. I know as a friend of 25 years it is not your responsibility. It is my responsibility to do that and, I can assure you, I contact often to see if they are alright.

Did you ever contact my sister, Eva? Didn't I give you her email address 12 years ago? I wondered if you ever made a connection with her. Let me know if you did. 

Come visit me, in Dauphin, where you used to live. Almost nobody knows their way here. It is so far out of the city of Winnipeg. Truly, I hope to move back to Winnipeg with my husband but no opportunity has yet been provided for us. I do believe we would be so much more helpful to my children, in Winnipeg. Don't you think so as well?

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