Not Romantic

 Dear Elfrieda,

My friend is in a relationship that has turned very sour. The man she married, now 65, seemed like a good guy for almost two years and then things took a turn for the 'are you remembering correctly' next two years.

Lately, he had taken to sleeping outside because he said it was cooler. His temper was not cooler. On a weekend, after midnight- ish, on a Saturday, my friend awakened. He had decided to sleep in bed that night. Going to the bathroom, the wife heard him demand... "Did you close the windows?" She replied that she had not closed the windows. He had turned off the air conditioner and opened all the windows. He must not have heard so when she re- entered the bedroom, he was snapping like a turtle and then he leaped out of bed and confronted his wife, an inch from her face, and said, "I will punch you in the face." His wife pulled back and he landed his fist under her chin and across her chest."

Do you think their relationship is over?

                                                                                            Very Concerned

Dear Very Concerned,

The 'over 65 agers' can be a vibrant group of people but not everyone has perfect health and physical fitness and optimal thinking as this is the beginning of retirement for many and the transition from full- time thinking to handling all of lifes' ups and downs takes quite a lot of patience; with oneself, and with others.

At 65, we aren't backpacking and camping and trekking through the woods like we do in our 30's. We have a bit more sense in knowing our boundaries of output and our levels of exhaustion have certainly changed.

If there is a personality change that has turned from agreeable to hostile, it would be best if a physical exam, which most people get once a year, is adhered to. If there has been a huge dietary change, some people go from 'Canada food guide' to 'Keto crazy' and think there won't be any adverse effects. Fad diets are called fads for a reason. Fasting, overly much, brings about a drastic change as well. There can be this... 'I went without food for 20 hours so I need food now' thing. That is a very demanding schedule for anyone if their partner is a traditional 'man goes to work' and 'woman takes care of the home' relationship.

Brain energy, a fantastic book I read this year, gives great detail about the huge variances of thinking, reacting, and behaviour. 

                                                                                        Hope this helps

Winnipeg

 So, now I'm in Winnipeg, looking for a place to live.

I'm looking to the future, for a future.

All my belongings will need to be hauled to Winnipeg... I've got a whole houseful of furniture and stuff and quilts... and bookshelves, and my bicycle. I could list things here but that would take a lot of time.

This is a lot of work, for me... to get done by third party?

Who Gave More?

 Today, I would like to talk about a conversation I once had with a person I went to church with. This person was always complaining about how much the leadership expected them to give... they were on a church board. These people are now in heaven so it is the perfect time to tell this story.

I, Elfrieda, was responsible for a family of five, every day, all day long, seven days a week. 

The person who would phone me to complain about how much they were giving... time, money, food, special event fundraisers... had grown children who were on their own and their health was good and they were doing quite well. Let's call these people 'couple.'

Let's call Elfrieda 'family.'

So, I explained giving this  way...

If couple gives 10% of their income in a month and, just as a example, let's say their income is $5,000.00 per month... 'Couple' has $4,500.00 to live on for month. (2 people)

If 'family' gives 10% of their income in a month and, just as a example, let's say their income is $2,200.00 per month... they have $1950.00 left to live on for the month. (5 people)

                    Who gave more?

In the next few posts I will address things like health, safety, and what makes it possible to earn a living and what makes it impossible to earn a living.

Who's with Who?

 Still haven't seen my children and grandchildren...

I called Alan yesterday to see if he could find out where my children are. Sometimes you have to go to a common connection... someone who knew us as a 'family.' This becomes important as people lose their phones. I could still reach Alan, yesterday, and I hope that continues.

So, I, Elfrieda, have always been a 'Winnipeg' person... over 40 years in Winnipeg before moving to Dauphin. My three sons were born in Winnipeg and two of them lived at 90 Forest Cove Drive their entire lives, until they got married. My oldest was two years old when my brother built that house for me. I was, definitely, the person who worked with my brother to find the perfect little plan for the next 29 years.

I believe, Jordan, my youngest son, has been very badly harmed by people I don't know. It is possible that the people who have harmed him are known to Dave and Janet Dueck of Kleefeld, Manitoba... 22 Aspen Bay. I would have these people questioned as to the whereabouts of my children, Scott, Tyler, and Jordan. I do not trust Dave and Janet nor the people who are associated with them. They are having a lot of trouble with their daughter Stacy because she is the most rebellious of their children... she's the youngest. Tim is the oldest and Brett is the middle child of this David Roy Dueck, who is the brother of Elmer John Dueck, two of nine children in the Dueck family. 

Ironically, my sister Sara, is married to a David Roy Dueck, who is not at all related to the David Roy Dueck of the nine child family who moved from Winnipeg to Kleefeld when Dave decided his Red River Insurance job would be a placement job he could work from almost anywhere in Manitoba. These families are not related to each other. My sister's husband only has one sister who used to work for the Winnipeg Police Department for over 25 years, answering 911 calls.

I will continue to give information, on this blog, because it is the only way for people to keep track of what is going on.

I will never go to Kleefeld. I am going to make sure my children are not kidnapped there either. 

I have really tried to reach Scott, my oldest son. He was baptized by Alan, whom I contacted yesterday. I don't know if Denny and Janet Chau are still in a close relationship with Alan but Janet Chau was the person who held the towel for Scott as he came out of the baptismal tank. I have a photo of that. Janet worked for IBM for many years but I think she is retired. The last place I was in their company was likely Ashdown. 

Jordan was baptized by a man from his group when he attended a church, in a school, in Charleswood. A very young Falk might have been the leader there, at Oasis? I have photos of his baptism.

I am not sure if Tyler is, yet, baptized. 

So, I am still wanting to visit with my sons, Scott, Tyler, and Jordan, on a regular basis. I hope Alan can make some arrangements regarding this. 

My sister Sara said she has not seen my children in person. I called her last week. My sister Eva certainly doesn't want to go to Eden as her husband often threatens. Eden is not a good place for anyone I know. 

I will update as soon as I receive more information. Please continue to pray about this situation.

   

The Keep

This morning I was thinking about a keep, which I thought was a castle or a home dwelling. Where I made my mistake, in trying to keep my keep... both times... was, that, I didn't get a lawyer. 

They say that, during siege warfare, the keep is the safest place to be. So, I will tell you, my keep that I was forced to sell, in 2014, was, definitely, my safest keep I ever owned.

Every terrible rental I lived in, after that, was not safe. 

Yesterday, my sister informed me that three of my brothers have sold their keep and don't, currently, have a keep. I think she still does.

I used to have a friend, many years ago, who did not have children, yet, she had a lot of impossible advice for the younger generation. Crazy things he and she would say, like... why don't you make five thousand dollar a month payments to clear a little debt. I looked at Crazy and thought... where in the world do you think people are going to find that kind of money to clear away debt?

Anybody who sets up that kind of payment schedule is Crazy. After thinking about this insanity for two seconds, I thought, this is not what it seems. I think this person, who has set this up is, literally, setting up someone for failure. So, the next question I ask, after this, is, why would a person want someone to fail... if they say they've helped this person?

The first thing that came to mind was this... they are waiting to see this person fail so they can steal all of their assets. Who else thinks this is probably what is going on?

Secondly, if these 'high living' people imagine they can make others find such exorbitant amounts of money, maybe they, themselves, don't have what they want in order to live in a 'high society.' What if some of that is going to 'unknown' people and not to the person who is trying to pay down debt? Who else thinks this? 

My suggestion is this. Get all the paperwork of the purchases... trace it back to the original date of purchases and see what went wrong.  

P & B?

Rumours are circulating that Scott, Tyler, and Jordan have very bad uncles... D, in particular. 

Now, D used to work for a insurance company but, recently, he didn't want to insure Scott when D tried to put Scott's leg into the letter P. If D has mental illness and has resorted to violence, we need to address these issues, forthwith. 

Then, we heard a terrible rumour that they were going to try to put someones' body into the letter B. Well, D's son is not going to appreciate that reputation slur. 

That would be tantamount to Jekyll transforming into Hyde to go sit in church somewhere. The Hyde personality is actually the physical and mental manifestation of his own misdeeds because Jekyll and Hyde are the same person, a very dark and sinister problem, indeed.

So, any real doctor will have x- rays and notes about a persons' injuries. 

I encourage people to make reports about any incidents that have resulted in a broken arm, or ankle... I am so tired of hearing about assaults on my children.

So, if you want to put P & B together, go buy peanut butter.

We're all tired of this terrible game you have created to make it seem like you are normal.

Try going to church for confessions.

Getting Away?

 Have you ever met people who think they are... getting away with it? 

What is it?

I am waiting to see my sons, Scott, Jordan, and Tyler. My dear grandsons are also on my 'waiting to hear from' list.

I once heard of a people who thought they could manipulate and lie and then take over peoples' bank accounts and steal their livelihoods, without impunity. I am grateful we live in a country where this has never been successful. 

I dropped off a quilt, on Saturday, and I heard a crazy person say... people cut it up and threw it in the garbage. Does anyone believe that?

It had a navy blue cotton sheet backing and the front was navy and white, with three large rectangular squares going across, starting at the top. It had diamond shapes sewed into the squares, here and there and I heard my grandson just loved it. 

I actually made it for my son but I think he allowed his son to have it because he really liked it. That's what people do who love their children, isn't it?

So, once again, I called a pastor and my sons' wife and my sons, yesterday. I only call a pastor when I am greatly alarmed at something that has never happened before.

My oldest sons' phone won't take anymore messages. The mailbox is full. He has always been the most dedicated person when it comes to carrying out things in his life. So, I was so alarmed and afraid that he has been hurt because what other reason can there be for this? I am hoping my phones are working properly.