What is love?
I know what the baptism of fire is because I experienced
it. That is not quite the same subject as love but, somehow, it is linked. Is
it possible that the baptism of fire always has its seed in love? My personal
baptism of fire came out of duty love. I would not let myself out of the
requirements that God had placed down in His Word so I made myself do them even
though I did not feel like I should have to, for any earthly reason for sure. Earthly
reason meaning the selfish idea of ‘if I’m not getting love why should I give
love? That way of thinking, yes, thinking. I knew that way of thinking was
wrong even as a child! So, as an adult I required myself to do the work of love
that I felt God wanted. This led to my baptism of fire which lasted a few weeks
at that time.
Soldiers will speak of the baptism of fire and I have
often wondered if it is the same for each individual who experiences it. There
is no fear in a time like this when you have to do something because the spirit
is so strong there is just no room for fear. Maybe it is courage that fills.
All I know is, it is a spiritual fire. God ordained. You can do anything you
have to at a time like that. It is an amazing power that contains everything
you need. I have had two in a completely different, well, I thought they were
very differently targeted places… one the church, and one the home and yet, are
they really separate for some believers? I wonder if that experience comes
often for some. I do not know but I, somehow, don’t think it can be continuous
because the body could not handle it. You would waste away to nothing because
you don’t even need food at a time like this. I have way more questions than
answers about what God has given me over my lifetime so far. People don’t
really talk about these things which has often worried me about the church in
general. Is there an awakening needed?
Just like trust and loyalty are linked. You do not find
one without the other, entwined they are, like vines.
God is not a God of separateness but a God of completeness
so it makes logical sense that many of the gifts of the spirit that we love,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, should coalesce within a person even though
we often write them as separate entities like a list.
I try to make sense of God’s spiritual anointings to see
if they have separate purposes. I ask myself these questions to see how to
apply these experiences and appropriately place the knowledge of them into some
form as to be useful to others as well as just an experience for me. When I
have told my story of how loved I was, spiritually, during my divorce, the
response I always get is, “You are lucky.” Sometimes it is followed with, “I
got nothing.” This is all in the way of love. Some people suffer greatly but
some people just suffer deeply. They are different for me. To suffer deeply is
a mature suffering because you are, possibly, embracing the recovery through
the acceptance of the trial. People who suffer greatly may be living a very
different scenario which does not have the love assurances through the
manifestation of spiritual feelings giving them a reason to believe the trial
has reason. And if not a reason, at least some significance to God. Does God
care that I suffer this loss? Does God care that I suffer loneliness?
Reason and a season… every person who suffers through
something needs the assurance that it is only for a season… That love will grow
again, mend the heart, become spring with freshness and newness and then
togetherness.
I just do not have the answers to all the things I have
experienced. Maybe I would not have survived my ordeal if God had not drenched
me with so much love. ‘I survived’ is no small thing when people say this about
having come through a difficult trial in life. To survive something is to get
through it and still believe yourself to be mostly a whole person even if some
numbness still remains some days. Knowing where you’re at and expressing it and
finding someone to express it to is very important. Getting back in the saddle
ready for more living and even then, daring to believe in love again is a very
good sign.
To never give up on love seems to be the sign of the
victor.
If there be any good thing in our daily living that can
be sifted and God does sift us, each good act of any kind must have its seed in
love. Love is the power. This is why so many people tell you to find something
you love to do and then do it because the work will show forth the evidence of
your love and how you feel about it. Maybe this is why my one son kept pursuing
a career he wanted while working on one he didn’t really want. His heart wasn’t
really in the one that was earning him money so he kept pursuing the other one.
Heart matters.
All of life is
really just serving in one form or another. But when we serve something other
than love or when we serve without love the result is not good. Because God
never meant for weeds to grow, weeds grew from the ugliness of sin, not the
lushness of love. For God to toss his first humans out of his beautiful garden
and put angels with flaming swords at the entrance so they couldn’t get back
in… He must have been some angry! I suppose if a person creates ‘a home’ that
they believe to be the best they can give their family… the one who created
this beauty and love is also angry at the one who destroys it. So, as a human
we are exactly as God was then… mad at the people who mess up the good things.
Therefore, love is protection. People protect and defend
what and whom they love.
Coming from a pacifist background, anyone I have ever
come to know laugh themselves silly when I say I’m a pacifist. I am one but
don’t confuse that with a willingness to pursue peace through love. That is a
battle! Every day! A person can’t even walk down a street of a civilized
country, such as the one I live in, without some feral dog behind a fence
wanting to tear you to pieces. It’s intimidating!
Love is complicated if one does not have courage. Courage
takes chances on ‘a moment.’ Emailing a stranger… the moment was there. Do it
or don’t do it. It’s up to everyone… every day! What can I lose? I always think
this way! I am never afraid to put myself out there for some good to come back
to me. The first effort is natural… it can become that as we grow in human
spirit. Where will it lead? God has a reap and sow principle that gives and
gives and gives as we give and give and give. It’s beautiful! It’s work and
effort but beautiful work and effort!
Love is big! Love is powerful! Motivates me like nothing
else does. I don’t know how people live without it. This is impossible for me.
Before I had the overwhelming feelings of love…
my love was protective, motherhood love… that love was a
lion at the door if anyone was hurting my children. That protective love is
very powerful too. That is also a ‘lay down ones’ life for’ kind of love. This
is the reason every parent wishes to die before their children.
Duty love is maybe what I gave in the marriage I had
because I was not loved the way a wife should be loved so I was always ‘keeping
things together, fixing things, working to keep a household going’ but these
are duties. Requirements that a thinking person can perform because they need
to be done. Borne of necessity and a deep desire to do no harm… this duty love
cannot replace what God designed love to be between a man and a woman.
I heard it said this week again by a teacher… a man and a
woman who marry must grow together… even at the same pace. The only way I can
see that happening is if they spend a lot of time together, melding, synergy…
maybe goals that need to be similar…
Heart goals need to be similar. A desire to… make the
world better by… We will, together…
build this… this relationship will be a love bond… we will invest in
this… protect it… enjoy the fruit of the trust, release ourselves from the
wanting by fulfilling each other… when people find this, I think then the work
can happen. People have too many needs, unfulfilled, and that creates too much
of a daily hunger that isn’t getting fed and then it might all be duty… when we
all long for beauty. And beauty, beauty is love!
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